nikibogwater:
I cannot stress enough how much I love love love the way Loid and Yor’s relationship is written. By removing actual romantic attraction from the equation, the story ironically gives one of the most accurate and honest depictions of what it takes to be a married couple. Way too many people assume romantic relationships are primarily centered around…well, romance. So they commit to a long-term relationship on the basis of emotions–fleeting things that you can’t control. And then one day, the honeymoon phase high wears off and maybe you don’t feel like making out today, maybe the other is in a bad mood and not fun to talk to right now. Maybe things just aren’t as sexy as they used to be and you’re starting to get bored.
That’s where the importance of an actual foundation comes in. From what I’ve observed of my own parents and grandparents, love is maybe 10% emotion and 90% willpower. Love is working as a team, embracing each other’s strengths and weaknesses, always seeking the other’s happiness and wellbeing. It’s acknowledging your faults and working to be better for them. Linking arms and digging in your heels whenever times get tough because you two are in this together to the very end, and it doesn’t matter if things are less sexy or exciting than they were at the start, because you’re bound by something deeper and far more mysterious than that.
SPY x FAMILY starts building Loid and Yor’s relationship not from a place of romance, but from a place of mutual teamwork. The most compelling developments in their relationship are things like Loid taking Yor’s advice on raising Anya, Yor wanting to contribute to the family in practical ways, the two of them valuing and being genuinely grateful for the other’s strengths. They work as a couple long before they’re actually….y’know, a couple because they are building a strong and stable foundation for a real relationship. Romance will be the reward, but it’s not the end goal. Their real goal is to support and empower each other and their daughter. And that more than anything is what’s going to make their romance feel so good to watch.
CRYING YOURE SO RIGHT and it’s a very nice reminder
